Children are the future

An old story involves a beautiful woman named Cornelia who was married to a famous Roman general. When the general was killed in battle, Cornelia had to sell most of her property and valuable possessions, just to live simply.

One day, she said to her two young sons, "A friend is coming to dine today, and she is very rich. She will most certainly want to show us her jewels."

When the visitor arrived, her fingers sparkled with rings and her arms glistened with gold bracelets. Chains of gold hung around her neck, and strands of pearls gleamed in her hair. The two boys wished their mother could have such beautiful things, as she was wearing a simple white robe, and her hands and arms were bare.

The rich woman said, "Tell me, Cornelia, is it true that you no longer have any jewels and that you had to sell them to live?"

Cornelia smiled and answered, "Not at all. I have jewels far more valuable than any you might purchase."

"Then let me see them," said the skeptical visitor. 

Cornelia called her two sons to her side and said, "These are my jewels. Are they not more precious than any gems?"

Cornelia's two sons grew up to become great statesmen in Rome. Their mother taught them a great lesson that day that they would never forget. She knew what was important.

November is National Children's Month and a perfect time to reflect on our most precious jewels. Whether you are raising your own children or having an influence on young people, be aware that they are watching your every move.

Children bring a fresh, unfiltered perspective to the world around us. They see everything with new eyes, finding wonder and excitement in the simplest things that many adults take for granted. Their curiosity and imagination allow them to explore and learn in ways that adults often forget.

Children's natural inclination to ask questions and their unwillingness to accept the status quo can inspire creativity and innovation. They aren't confined by conventional thinking and are experts at pushing the envelope. This mindset is something adults can learn from to foster a more dynamic and open approach to life and work.

Children remind us of the joy and excitement that comes with discovery and learning. As my friend, Jim Rohn, suggested, adopting a childlike curiosity and enthusiasm can help us reach, learn and grow continuously, no matter what our age.

Raising children to be good people is one of the most significant and rewarding responsibilities a parent can undertake. It's about instilling values, morals and ethics that will guide them throughout their lives. Here are some key points to consider:

Foundation of character — Values and morals form the bedrock of a person's character. Teaching children honesty, integrity, kindness and respect helps them become trustworthy and reliable individuals. Strong moral principles aid in making sound decisions, even in challenging situations. A person with strong values earns the trust and respect of others, which is crucial in both personal and professional relationships.

Balanced discipline — Discipline is essential for teaching responsibility and self-control. However, it should be balanced with love and understanding to ensure children feel secure and valued. Providing emotional support helps children develop a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. It teaches them to manage their emotions healthily and constructively.

Role modeling — Children often emulate their parents' behavior. Demonstrating ethical behavior, compassion and resilience in your actions sets a powerful example for them to follow.

Consistency — Consistently upholding your values and principles reinforces their importance and helps children internalize them. The values and morals you instill in your children can be passed down through generations, creating a legacy of goodness and integrity.

Societal contribution — Raising children to be good people contributes to a better society. Individuals with strong values are more likely to engage in positive actions and make meaningful contributions to their communities. 

What an investment in the future! The values and principles you instill today will shape the leaders, innovators and compassionate individuals of tomorrow.  

Some days, I would like to be a kid again. I would thank my mom and dad for the example they set for me as well as the expectations they had for me. I wish every kid could be so lucky.

Mackay's Moral: Children teach us to see the world with wonder and curiosity. Embrace their perspective, and you'll find endless opportunities for growth and joy.

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Harvey Mackay is the author of the New York Times bestseller "Swim With the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive." He can be reached through his website, www.harveymackay.com, by emailing harvey@mackay.com or by writing him at MackayMitchell Envelope Co., 2100 Elm St. SE, Minneapolis, MN 55414.