'It feels like there’s a dark cloud overhead': Resources available after tragic loss in Shoshone County

“When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone."

When considering the recent loss to the community after the death of pastor Gene Jacobs, Siobhan Curet of Silver Valley CARES wants people to remember the words of Fred Rogers and hopes they will reach out, check in and offer support to one another.

“In the aftermath of losing someone who had a profound impact on so many lives, I think it is important to recognize that others may be struggling, too,” Curet said.

The nonprofit has compiled a resource list for a multitude of struggles including mental health and counseling options within and outside of the Silver Valley at www.svcares.org/resources/.

“I hope people will share their struggles with those around them, and find comfort in connection and sharing one's burdens,” Curet said.

Kellie Lavigne, executive director for the Shoshone County Crisis and Resource Center, said the stoicism of the mining community that prides itself on its independence can raise barriers to getting help when the need arises.

“It’s shocked our community. It feels like there’s a dark cloud overhead. It breaks our hearts when there’s someone who maybe didn’t think they could reach out,” Lavigne said.

The Crisis and Resource Center has a confidential 24-hour crisis hotline for anyone in need to talk to members of the community at 208-556-0500.

Lavigne said often when there is a loss of life due to suicide, people are quick to speak in a hurtful way, carrying the ripples of the loss further and making accusations without understanding or empathy. 

“They were human. People need to educate themselves on suicide. Our population here is very geared towards rumors and nobody knows what actually happens,” Lavigne said.

In addition to leaning on one another and potentially seeking crisis counseling, Lavigne urges those feeling the loss to lean on faith communities if they have those connections in combination to other resources.

Panhandle Health District hosts a monthly Survivors of Suicide Loss Support Group on the first Wednesday of each month from 6 to 8 p.m. This group offers both in-person and online options and is led by peers. Info: spanofni@phd1.idaho.gov.

Valerie Leal is the suicide prevention and youth education specialist at Panhandle Health District and offered coping strategies for those struggling in the wake of this kind of loss.

“Throughout the grieving process, it's important to be patient and compassionate with yourself and others, understanding that healing takes time,” Leal said.

Asking for support is a sign of strength rather than a weakness, Leal said, and “educating oneself about suicide and grief can also be beneficial, offering insights into your own feelings and experiences.” 

There are about 850 citizens in Shoshone County to one mental health care provider, according to the Population Health Institute at the University of Wisconsin and across the state that figure drops to 420 people to one mental health provider.

Leal recommends those looking for a way to keep engaged work through organizations such as the S.A.V.E Coalition or the Shoshone County Crisis and Resource Center to better arm themselves with knowledge about mental health and suicide prevention.

PHD provides specialized lockboxes and gun locks to reduce access to prescription medication and firearms.

Resources such as the 988 suicide and crisis lifeline also ensures that community members have access to confidential 24/7 support during difficult times.

PHD also offers QPR Gatekeeper Training, which teaches how to question, persuade, and refer someone experiencing suicidal ideation. The tool is free to local organizations.

Mental health warning signs:

Identifying warning signs of suicidal ideation or depression in ourselves or others is vital for early intervention.

Leal said verbal clues can include expressing thoughts of self-harm or a desire to die, while non-verbal signs may involve feelings of hopelessness, lacking a reason to live, or feeling like a burden. Behavioral indicators may include social withdrawal, changes in sleep patterns, or giving away possessions. 

When there has been a recent job loss, the loss of a loved one, or financial difficulties, individuals are more at risk for mental health crises.

Leal says when any of these signs or risk factors are present to consider seeking help promptly. Accompany a loved one to a crisis center or the hospital, contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline together or arrange a counseling appointment with a mental health professional. Brainstorming practical solutions can sometimes help address the situation in the short term and coping strategies like journaling, meditation, outdoor activities, or engaging in hobbies can also be beneficial. 

Use these resources for more assistance:

Call or text 988 for the suicide and crisis hotline in Idaho.

Shoshone Crisis and Resource Center 24-hour crisis hotline, 208-556-0500.

SV CARES: https://www.svcares.org/resources/

S.A.V.E. Coalition: https://www.facebook.com/SVSAVECoalition/

Shoshone Crisis and Resource Center: https://www.sccrcenter.org/

Panhandle Health District: www.panhandlehealthdistrict.org/suicide-prevention