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Single dad changes life for son

| December 15, 2020 1:06 AM

As part of the annual Press Christmas for All Campaign, we share with readers the stories of the people applying for help. Here’s one of them.


“Patrick” has grappled with drug addiction since he was just 13 years old.

After spending years in and out of jail and treatment programs, he never found the support he needed to be successful and be active in his son’s life.

At least, not until he entered Kootenai County’s Mental Health Court Program.

Mental Health Court is an intensive, post-conviction program for those with substance abuse and mental health issues. The program consists of supervision by a mental health professional and frequent appearances before a judge, as well as counseling, treatment and substance abuse testing.

“It radically changed my life,” Patrick said.

Patrick’s son was born addicted to heroin. Within the first year of his life, Patrick’s mom took custody of him.

“I was in and out of jail and treatment and wasn’t really there for him,” Patrick said. “It wasn’t until recently that I was able to fully commit as a father.”

He once worried that the damage done to their bond was irreparable.

“I was afraid we would never have that full relationship that a father and son should have,” he said.

But now the pair are making up for lost time. Patrick has partial custody of his son, now 5, and is working to get back on his feet so he can care for him full-time.

“I try to be the best father I can be,” he said.

In addition to the recovery work he’s doing in Mental Health Court, Patrick has a steady job with a compassionate boss.

“He’s been in recovery himself for 10 or 15 years,” Patrick said. “He understands.”

In order to drive to work and treatment safely, Patrick needs a pair of windshield wipers. He’s also been using the same pair of contact lenses since May because he can’t afford glasses.

Patrick said he’s grateful for the program that helped him transform his life and become the kind of father he never dreamed he could be.

“The support this community has showed and the impact it’s had on me is tremendous,” he said.


This is the 35th year Press Christmas for All has worked to brighten the lives of Kootenai County residents in need.

Each year, Press readers donate generously to the program. Every penny raised is distributed to Kootenai County residents. All overhead costs are covered by The Hagadone Corp.

The gift recipients are our neighbors who are struggling, including the elderly, disabled, homeless and mentally ill.

Many who seek assistance from Christmas for All are working, but living near or below the poverty level. The beneficiaries of Press Christmas for All are going to keep their dignity intact while the community provides a hand up to help get them back on their feet.

Press Christmas for All is managed by The Hagadone Corp., with assistance from CharityReimagined.Org. It is a legally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit, run entirely by volunteers.

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• Mail a check to Press Christmas for All, 215 N. Second St., Coeur d’Alene, 83814

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