CHILDREN: Love and protect them
Have you ever been so concerned over a humanity problem that you wanted to shout those concerns from the mountain tops and roof tops? That is the reason for this letter! PEOPLE WAKE UP! As our morals decay more and more the children are paying the price! Children are being neglected, abused, rejected, even murdered more every day.
Is this a new problem? No, but as these single parents search for their own fulfillments they are exposing these children to scars physically and emotionally that determine their entire lives. The roomies, significant others or step-parents are sometimes almost competing with these precious children that have no option or choice. It becomes a contest of affection rather than enough love to go around. If your heart is not given to that child you should not even consider moving into that situation! Often the children actually get blamed for the problem.
The rationale of the parent covers their own responsibilities which should come from a loving, protective heart instead of resentment. Many explanations are given but none truly get at the heart of the problem. The responsibility once a child is born to love, nurture, instruct that child is placed on the back burner. A child hard to love is often the one that needs it the most.
Most children in this situation put up their guard, get very independent at a young age. Security in their lives is largely missing so they appear stubborn or difficult. You only see the insecurities when they put their guard down and trust you. Their response will depend on their God-given personalities but make no mistake, it still comes down to one thing — insecurity and fear of loss or rejection especially of their parents they love unconditionally. Children are born with instincts that we try to snuff out to ease our consciences.
Do I have a doctorate in this field of knowledge? Absolutely not! What I do have is years and years AND YEARS of experience, observations and helping outreach programs. Some of those observations have been very close to my heart. Having been in those shoes from every angle I could call the next step almost every time but those that need to hear it the most usually have closed their minds and hearts to realize ONCE A PRECIOUS CHILD IS BORN THEY ARE YOUR PRIORITY TO LOVE AND PROTECT!
God has a pre-plan for every one of us regardless of conception and birth circumstances. The molding of these children should not be abuse, neglect, rejection or competing for parental affection. Yes, they are wonderfully flexible but make no mistake about it, the scars last in every decision they make later as young adults and through life.
VICCI ANDERSON
Coeur d’Alene