Support for life changing events

Boy, life sure has gotten busy. Between the kids and their schedules, running the household and working, it's hard to find time for anything.

Your parents seem to be doing well. They are active and loving retirement. You call and go by to see them on occasion and yes they are getting older but they say, "All is well." Sometimes they are a little forgetful and the thought of them getting behind the wheel frightens you.

Then one evening you get a frantic phone call. Your mom has fallen and broken a hip! Mom is in the emergency room at the hospital so you quickly find someone to watch the kids and rush over there. There are people running in and out, there are questions being asked and decisions being made.

What insurance does mom have? Does she have a living will? Who has medical power of attorney? Who should the hospital contact in an emergency? You really hope mom's insurance will cover all of this but how do you know for sure? Your head is spinning.

A few days later, a social worker comes in to talk with mom about going to rehab. The hospital wants to send her to a nursing facility. Oh no! Isn't that where old people go to die!?

The social worker assures you that this is just for rehab and once mom is able, she can go home. Oh good, that's a relief. But why does mom need to go to rehab? Why can't she just go home? The doctor fixed the problem didn't he? Once more, you wonder if mom's insurance will cover this. Again, your head is spinning.

Now mom is at the nursing facility, doesn't want to be there and would rather be home. The people there are nice but it's just not home. You do have to admit she is getting stronger and the exercises she does with the therapist seem to be helping; although you don't understand some of them.

After awhile, another social worker comes in to talk with you and mom. She will be released soon but is going need some services at home. A therapist will be helping with her exercises and checking her blood pressure. The social worker also says she will need someone to help around the house while she recovers.

Once more, your head is spinning. You have your job and there is no way you can be there during the day. Who do you call? Is there an agency who will help you find a trustworthy caregiver? How will you pay for this? Is it covered by insurance? Why can't the therapist do what is needed for mom?

This story may not seem real, but it is. This happened to our family a few years ago. Since then, we have made it our mission to help other families who are going through similar life changing events.

Dealing with senior issues may seem very confusing and scary. If you don't know what services are available and how to contact them, we can help.

There is no need to go through these events alone. Let Home Helpers find the resources and support you need. (208) 769-9560 Home Helpers, we make life easier for the ones you love.