The very best gifts are free

It's nice just to be asked, even when I don't have an answer. "What do you want for Christmas, Mom?" Responding along the lines of, "for all of us to be happy," didn't cut it, but it's the truth. This year I just can't think of a thing. If anything, I'd like to reduce the clutter around here. That's a fortunate position to be in.

So what do you give when the budget's too tight or the recipient seems to have everything? Consideration. One year my kids gave me a hand-made coupon book. In it were coupons for "a bear hug," "doing the dishes," "vacuuming," "breakfast in bed," etc. - all redeemable on demand. I loved it and they delivered without complaint.

A few more non-material gift ideas:

* An evening of free babysitting

* A home-cooked meal, delivered

* Free labor - install tile, paint a room, or an afternoon honey-do list

* Free snow-shovel or (for later) yard work

* A week of dog-walking - especially appreciated in cold weather and by older dog owners

When you want to buy it, but don't know what "it" is:

* Massage, spa, or salon gift certificate

* Museum membership

* Gift cards for gas, groceries, or restaurants. It may not seem exciting but is nearly always appreciated.

* Prepaid maid/housekeeping services

* Music or singing lessons

* Donations to needy local charities in their name

Finally, my favorite no-cost gift idea: Appreciation. Good for someone going through a rough time, but really, who wouldn't benefit from knowing how much and why they're liked and loved? Ask friends and loved ones to write a paragraph or two (maybe provide nice paper) about what they appreciate or love about the recipient, then assemble in a nice box or album. That's a gift they can open life long. Isn't love what it's all about?

Sholeh Patrick is an attorney and a columnist for the Hagadone News Network. Email [email protected]